If you’re a boss, don’t expect appreciation, commitment or loyalty from a worker you help with personal and work issues. Many employees take it for granted, according to IMD business-school research.
“Managers and employees alike appreciate that controlling negative emotions can be important within an organization,” said research co-author Professor Ginka Toegel. “But it seems there’s a marked difference in how the two parties believe this sort of support should be perceived and how they think employees should respond to it.”
IMD, a Swiss school (www.imd.org), conducted the research in collaboration with University College London, and was published in the Academy of Management Journal.
“Managers tend to regard emotional support as above and beyond their responsibilities and therefore worthy of reciprocation in the form of greater commitment,” explained the professor. “For example, they might think an employee they have helped should have no qualms about working a little bit harder or staying a little bit later to meet a deadline.”
If you want to go out of your way to help an employee, don’t expect anything in return. And that’s a problem for such caring bosses, says the study.
“Unfortunately, employees just don’t see it like that. They view emotional support as part and parcel of what their superiors do and are paid good money for,” added Professor Toegel. “Consequently, the shows of gratitude may never arrive – and the negativity can end up perpetuated not by the employee but by the manager, who feels terribly let down.”
Bosses who lend a helping hand must manage their own expectations, as they may find themselves frustrated with their staff’s lack of appreciation.
Around three quarters of lower-level workers and middle managers reported receiving support from their superiors, but not one expressed a feeling of personal debt.
“Some managers expressed social motives for offering support – ‘Christian spirit’, for example, or ‘the right thing to do’,” said IMD Professor Anand Narasimhan. “But even they expected they would gain something in return, perhaps in the form of increased recognition from those they helped and from their own superiors.”
The findings emerged from an in-depth study of workers at a successful recruiting agency that specializes in providing managers for the service sector.
Dozens of employees took part in interviews and questionnaires to examine whom they turned to for emotional help and how they felt such support should be viewed.
Sales and profits
“Others expected purely practical gains, taking the view that helping to address employees’ negative emotions would ultimately benefit sales and profits,” explained Professor Narasimhan. “Based on our findings, maybe the lesson for all concerned is to avoid unrealistic expectations – especially in an era when so much of economic life is built on services.”
Besides, don’t overlook one bonus.
“The fact is that managers do benefit from a happy team in terms of productivity and results, even without any additional displays of loyalty and commitment,” asserted Professor Narasimhan. “Some manifestation of gratitude beyond that would be very nice, of course, but there’s no reason for bitterness or hand-wringing if it doesn’t happen to materialize.”
Amen. Just like giving any kind of gift in your personal or professional life, lower your expectations.
Don’t expect anything in return if you’re doing something charitable. Otherwise, you’re defeating your purpose, and extending a helping hand — not a handout — is the right thing to do.
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“It is not until you become a mother that your judgment slowly turns to compassion and understanding.”