Are you nervous about giving bad news to others? Do you wish you were good at it? Do you worry about your business reputation?
Well, you’re not alone. Delivering bad news can be a difficult task.
There are, however, people, who can deliver bad news without suffering from personal repercussions. Good messengers are not eager to perform the task, but they know it isn’t about them.
Good messengers possess emotional intelligence. (For more on emotional intelligence, scroll down to the Coach’s Corner.)
That means good messengers are usually leaders. They keep in mind their audience members and their concerns.
They know what is necessary to say and what not to say. Good messengers know how to do it.
Bearers of bad news also anticipate the concerns and questions. They make sure their audience gets the right messages.
How or why do they accomplish these goals?
Typically, good messengers have five traits:
Messengers have already developed a reputation for trust. They lay the groundwork by being trustworthy in all that they do.
That means not being a people-pleaser. People-pleasers are manipulators – an undesirable label. They don’t try to spin all the news as positive.
When it comes time to deliver bad news, they’re regarded with credibility and high esteem.
In this age, most people are astute. They understand spin. Whether the bearer of bad news has to give a speech or have a one-on-one conversation, the person should accurately explain the situation right away.
So the message should be concise and to-the-point. If not, the messenger’s trustworthiness will take a big hit. Plus, a cover-up always leads to worse repercussions.
3. Communicate with clarity
People who are successful in delivering bad news do so because they speak with clarity. They don’t hide or distort the facts.
They don’t just dump a lot of misunderstood statistics onto the audience. Good messengers think in terms of key takeaways. In fact, they highlight them.
4. Have serenity
Such people maximize their chances to generate confidence. They come from a position of calmness – even if the news is sudden and it wasn’t forecast, the messengers remain unruffled.
They provide the information with eye contact – slowly – with each person. In a sense, they speak with finality – they make sure the end of each sentence is in a low pitch.
People who end their sentences high in pitch or volume appear to lack in confidence and self esteem – not good for the messenger of bad news.
5. Understand positives
Affected audience members want to if the messenger is insightful and empathetic – in addition to being honest.
While it’s important to focus on why and what is going wrong, what also matters is for the messenger to look for positives and derive solutions for the audience.
In other words, paint the picture of a vision that everyone might appreciate and understand.
From the Coach’s Corner, for numerous articles on leadership, go here.
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“Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something.”