Whether you just got a new job or whether your company just assigned a new boss for you, it might seem hard to deal with it. But deal with it you must. Learn to develop poise and to manage your boss.
Firstly, recognize two things: 1. Fear is common. 2. Throughout your career and personal life, you will face adversity.
Secondly, consider fear to be an acronym, FEAR: “Frantic Effort to Avoid Responsibility.”
There’s a second acronym for FEAR: “False Evidence Appearing Real.”
Opportunity for growth
Getting a new boss does not constitute a problem. Facing fear actually makes you stronger. It’s an opportunity for growth.
If you have apprehension, you need to understand why. In such situations, the most-common questions to consider: Do you fear change? Do you have authority-figure issues?
The solution to such personal and professional issues is to conduct a personal assessment.
On a sheet of paper, create two columns – your strengths and weaknesses. Analyze your attitude and behavior in similar situations whether you had friction, were laid off or fired.
For negative situations, here’s a hint: You’ll learn fear was a factor – a frantic effort to avoid responsibility – to yourself.
Understand your role, but don’t focus on the other person’s. Don’t give away your personal power by focusing on the possible motives or behavior of others – even if you feel you were dealing with the reincarnation of Attila the Hun.
At the bottom of the sheet, develop a strategic game plan – strategize how and why you’ll be successful.
You might also develop a list of positive affirmations, such as: “I’m a great employee,” and “I welcome this new boss as an opportunity for growth.” Keep this list handy.
Recite these affirmations in front of a mirror. With enough practice and by facing fearful situations, you’ll get stronger and someday will feel compelled to share these tips with someone who will benefit.
Getting a new boss does not constitute a problem. Facing fear actually makes you stronger.
Then, implement your strategic plan. Research your new boss. Learn all you can.
If you have questions for your boss, create a written list. Include questions about possible likes and dislikes about preferred employee performance.
Don’t procrastinate. When you’re ready, ask your boss for a time to chat.
Once you’re working with your new boss, there will be opportunities to contribute to the welfare of the team.
The team is only as strong as its weakest member. Don’t be afraid to speak up to solve problems.
Discernment before speaking
But it’s important to remember this concept: It’s not what you say, but it’s how you say it.
Even unpopular viewpoints can serve as catalysts for your professional and organization success — if you’re polished and careful in how you approach a subject with a boss.
Don’t speak with finality with an accusing tone, for example: “This is a problem.”
Instead, ask a non-threatening question, such as: “Is it possible that the problem is…?” In this way, you’ll help open the door to a team discussion.
Oh, and by the way, by doing this you’re on your way to becoming a leader among your peers.
Then, you’ll be ready for to ask your boss for a pay raise.
And if you want, you might become management material, too.
So, the place to jump start your career development: It’s all about poise in managing your boss.
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