Many professionals unknowingly undermine their careers. That’s right. They either self-destruct or limit their career potential by giving away their power in communication.
How? They do it by communicating certain phrases either verbally or in e-mails.
By eliminating the use of such phrases, you’ll look and feel more successful. Seriously? Yes, you’ll project stronger self-confidence, intelligence and credibility.
So avoid using these 10 phrases:
“I hate to ask” or “Sorry to ask” – You’re giving away your power if you’re asking for something that’s part of someone’s job or is reasonable.
In essence, you’re apologizing. Don’t apologize unless it’s necessary.
“Does this make sense?” – There two possible ramifications from using this phrase.
The other person might be insulted because the phrase implies the person doesn’t have enough intelligence to understand your point.
The other possibility – it makes it appear as though you are inadequate in explaining something.
“This is probably a stupid question, but …” – Understand that there are no stupid questions. If you don’t know the answer to something, simply ask your question. You run the risk of looking as though you don’t have self-confidence.
“I wanted to ask …” — Always aim to use an economy of words. This phrase is unnecessary. Just ask your question. People who get to the point quickly also accelerate their careers at a faster rate.
“I may be wrong” – In business, many ideas are worth millions of dollars. Don’t devalue or lessen the impact of your ideas before you even mention it.
“I think” – This phrase introduces a thought in the other person’s mind that you’re really not certain. Be confident and use a phrase like, “My sense is that …”
“I’m looking for another job” or “I don’t make enough money” – If either is true, it’s no longer a secret.
“I hate her/him” – Never complain about one of your peers or your boss. Sooner or later, it will get back to the other person and it will only hurt your reputation. Plus, carrying around a bag of resentments will only wear you out emotionally. Positive, enthusiastic people earn promotions and raises.
“He/she is hot” – Again, don’t ignite the rumor mill in your office. Keep your conversations and e-mails on a professional level.
“I want a raise” – It’s OK to make your case in person for a raise, but never ask your boss for a raise in an e-mail. Always discuss money in face-to-conversations, after you’ve laid the groundwork to ask your boss for a pay raise.
Finally, if you want to accelerate your career, you can do yourself a favor by using two thoughtful phrases in the majority of your conversations and e-mails.
The phrases are “please” and “thank you.” Think I’m kidding? Try it for a month and you’ll experience a positive difference in how people respond to you.
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“Nothing succeeds like the appearance of success.”